A couple of weeks ago, I sat down with a good friend of mine; talking about random stuff (well, mostly about food though). About her dream of studying culinary arts in NYC, her passion for soups, and what she really wants for her life. Her enthusiasm is so strong, she can’t contain it. She dreams about something and she makes it happen. I don’t think it’s only because she has the courage to do so, but it’s because she’s not slacking in pursuing her dreams. There were moments in the past when I looked at her and I got really insecure because of how domintant she could be. But after I get to know her better, it’s not about her dominance, it’s about her perseverance and ambition. She stands out from the crowd. I don’t feel threaten anymore, I absorb her positive vibes. I am actually glad to be associated with a friend like her.
We discussed another topic that afternoon; about being selective in choosing friends. Somehow we get to a point where she’s admitting that she can be difficult to some people because she sees everything in black and white. One can only be a friend or NOT be a friend with her; there’s no grey area. From their initial interaction, she can sense if one is a good friend for her or not. I am not a total opposite of her, but I do live in a bubble where I put trust in everyone I meet because I tend to perceive people as good. Please note that this isn’t about being judgemental toward others.
I keep people around because I see them as assets. I might sound like an opportunist, but that’s not entirely wrong. I am all about peace and I try my best to fit in in different social situations. Mostly because I think the relationship might benefit me in the future or simply because it feels right to be nice and friendly to all kinds of people. She did warn me about being overly trusting though. Trusting people means being vulnerable. I did admit that the situations were not always perfect; there were times when things blew up in my face. I trust people and they used it to hurt me.
I guess my friend and I just have different perspectives. Whatever it is, as long as there’s trust and comfort between us, we can agree to disagree on different matters.